The Upbringing for Children



“You’d better not come to school today if you do not recite the Iqro first,” she scolded

That is a part of words that a mother said to her daughter that I heard this morning . She was more likely angry because her daughter does not behave what she wants. Her daughter prefers playing than reciting Quran. What the mother does is to remind her. She was mad at her. The daughter cried out loud and tried to make a deal with her mother so that her mother do not get mad at her. Then, she pronounced the Arabic letter  weepingly to follow her mother words. Yes, her mother wants her to recite and concern more about Quran than her formal school.

That was possible to do for her as a teacher of Quran. She knows her children well and wants her children being more concern with Quran than dunya. Her children are the next generation to be good leaders in the future. However, there are several principals that make me think about Islamic parenting i.e. children are born pure and will imitate their parents as role models.

Children have no sin when they come to this life. “No child is born except on al-fitra (Islam or primordial human nature) and then his parents make him Jewish, Christian or Magian, as an animal produces a perfect young animal: do you see any part of its body amputated?” [Sahih Muslim] They are born pure. If they misbehave, they imitate what they see and hear. Thus, parents do not have to blame or grumble because the children implement what they have seen, heard and felt to their environment.


Yogyakarta, 6/12/16


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